President of Barnard College Debora Spar writes in her new book “Wonder Women" about how feminism became privatized:
I think what happened was that feminism was really a revolutionary movement, and like all revolutionary movements, it wasn’t about personal satisfaction or personal success. It was a social movement. It was about civil rights. It was about expanding access. It was about bringing fully half of the population into society with all of the rights and responsibilities that men had.
And somewhere along the line, and it was pretty quick … but the message of feminism got watered-down and misinterpreted. It’s easy to blame the media for doing that, it’s easy to blame people like me who somehow heard the message but didn’t get it, but women of my generation and younger, not all of us, but many of us, I think really saw feminism as a battle that was over, because we were the lucky recipients of the victory … This idea that we can have it all, that we can be everything, and I think once you start marching down that track it’s very easy to turn inward. Rather than seeing the opportunities that feminism created … they very easy morph into expectations.